Thursday, 14 April 2016

...keep on moving straight ahead...


Phew! So it's been a minute since I last shared anything with you (about 7 weeks to be precise). What can I say, except that life happens. It's been a busy time. A time to reflect, a time to learn new things and a time to consolidate and come back stronger. Whilst I was doing all that I came across a quote which captured exactly what was going on for me. It's simple, but like many simple things, it's not the easiest thing to do. It says "accept what is, let go of what was, have faith in what will be"

Firstly, what does it mean to "accept what is..."? There have been a few times in my life when I have needed to do exactly that and I have resisted with every fibre of my being. Why? Because in my mind, to accept what is, is to be okay with the situation and I was very far from being okay with any of those situations. What I've since come to understand is that you cannot change anything you
don't take responsibility for. And taking responsibility involves acceptance of the current reality of the situation. Not as it was, not as you'd like it to be and not what it might be in the future. Only when we do that, do we have any hope of changing our circumstances. And if it's change we're after, then that it is in no way being okay with the situation.

Secondly, "let go of what was.."  In my wardrobe I have 2 sets of clothes. One from when I was smaller and the ones I can wear now.  The only thing that the smaller clothes do is remind me of when I was in fact smaller and depress me because I can't fit into them any more. If I were to talk to other women, I'm pretty certain that I would find that I am not the only one who does this. Whatever our reason for keeping these clothes- and we have many, they represent only one thing; the past. Even if I did get back to that size again, chances are that I still wouldn't wear those clothes. Either because they are dated or because I'd be euphoric over my weight loss and be out shopping for a whole new wardrobe! My point? Let go of the past, because it's not that perfect thing that you keep remembering and it's never going to be that exact thing that you remember nostalgically now. You're different, circumstances are different and the 'past' will be different too. It's a bit like eating something as an adult that you loved as a child and thinking "yuck, this is actually quite nasty!"

Finally, "have faith in what will be". I don't know how you feel about that statement, but when I read it, I feel so hopeful. Like I have a clean slate, on which to write whatever fresh start I need.  It's the place where you believe that you can do things differently and be different. That place where you can be the best version of yourself. It's also a bit of a scary place though, because you don't know what it holds or what it will look like. And because it's so scary, it can feel safer to hold onto the past. The thing is though, if you stay stuck in the past, you will shortchange yourself. You will never know how truly amazing you are and what excellence you are capable of achieving. That my friend, is like having a top of the range BMW and only ever driving it at 20mph. Kind of defeats the object of having it I would think.

So that's me done, now I have a few questions for you. What do you need to accept, so that you begin the process of changing? What do you need to let go of, so you can get unstuck? What step of faith do you have to take to discover how amazing you are? 

I'd love to continue our conversation, so drop me a line in the comments box. If you'd like some help answering these questions then you can contact me on +234 706 335 0864 or through the website.


Until next time, go well.

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