Friday, 10 July 2015

Hit the switch; push the button; pull the lever

I have a confession to make: sometimes I yell at my tv.  You know when you’re watching a movie and the music changes.  It gets a little bit louder, a little bit scarier, especially when the lead character is about to open a door or a window or something. I don’t know about you, but it’s at this stage that I start getting a bit agitated because you know it’s all going to end in tears. Usually because someone’s been decapitated or something.  That’s when I start yelling “don’t do it, don’t open the door, window or whatever else”.  This week’s post though is sort of opposite to this though.  This week I’m asking you to hit the switch; push the button; pull the lever or whatever else it is you think you shouldn’t do.  Why would I do that I hear you ask?  Because when it’s about discovering your purpose, you should absolutely do the things that get your heart racing and the adrenaline pumping. If you don’t make a big leap when it comes to your life’s purpose, when will you?

Too many of us are out there, trudging through life, promising ourselves that we’ll start living when the kids grow up, when we retire, when we lose that last 10lbs.  Then, we will absolutely start living out our heart’s desire, our purpose.  The thing is none of us know when our time will be up.  I was in two scary car accidents in 8 days a few weeks ago and I know for sure that I’m not done living out my purpose.  Do you want to come to the end of your life without ever having achieved your purpose? What would be the point?
The good thing about purpose is that it’s never too early to start paying attention to it.  I was looking at my daughter’s report card a few days ago and she’s really good at ballet and piano.  Is it her life’s purpose to become a performer of some sort? I don’t know.  What I do know is that it’s my job as her mum to notice these things and nurture them. It’s my job to partner with her to make sure that she has the opportunity to express these gifts to the fullest.  At the moment, these things represent her 4 year old self’s purpose and I’m going to encourage her to push that button as hard and as often as she needs to!  Your purpose is your purpose. Don’t be shy, own it.  A life lived in and on purpose is a life well spent.
The next thing I want to say is don’t limit your purpose to the things that can make you money.  I’ve often heard it said that the secret to success is to find your passion and see how you can make money at it.  That’s great, but our purpose is so much bigger than that.  When we reduce everything to its financial benefits we run the risk of commercialising our purpose and losing our way.  We become all about money instead of passion. All head and very little heart. I wonder if Mother Theresa really thought about the financial implications of the path she chose, in living out her purpose.  If she did, would she have spent a large proportion of her time in some of the poorest areas of Calcutta? If she measured her life’s purpose in terms of financial reward then she clearly failed. If she looked at it in terms of the lives she changed then she most definitely lived on purpose.  What she gave those children transcended money.

And that leads me neatly to my last point.  Purpose is at its best, most effective and most useful when it affects the lives of people around us positively.  Not fulfilling our purpose is like having a beautiful pair of shoes which you keep in a box and never wear.  Shoes are meant to be worn and when they aren’t, they aren’t fulfilling their purpose.  We were created for a reason, we have a purpose and the best expression of our lives is to find out what it is and live it out. My purpose is to help other people become the best version of themselves that they can be and I strive to do something in line with that every day.  Sometimes it’s formal like coaching or training.  Other times it can be as simple as offering a word of encouragement or providing a listening ear.  Sometimes it’s paid and sometimes it’s not.  Whatever the case, it’s something I am compelled to do and it is in that space that I feel most alive.
As I end this week, I have some questions for you: have you discovered your purpose yet? What are you doing with it? Are you changing lives? Are you making a difference?  Whatever the case, don’t waste another minute: hit the switch; push the button; pull the lever and begin to live your life on and in purpose.
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Until next time, go well.