The other morning I heard one of my favourite songs, from one of my favourite films and I commented to a friend that I must have seen the film in question, about a gazillion times (it was Pretty Woman by the way). I'm not usually a fan of endless repeats, but sometimes, you just want the comfort of an 'old friend'.
As I get older, I begin to appreciate more and more the importance and power of collaboration. And the joys of walking out my journey in the company of talented, clever and beautiful women. I originally wrote this piece back in 2012, but I've been mulling over its message for a while now and felt that it was okay to give this post a 're-run'. Especially, as one of those talented, beautiful sistas has written a book on sister power, which you can download for free. For those who have never read it, I hope it resonates with you. For those of you who may remember it from the first time round, I hope it's still fresh and gives you a new perspective on why, as women, we need to collaborate. Here are my top 3 ways in which I think as women we could support each other more. I’d love to hear from you all, about other ways that women can support each other, so please leave a comment on the blog.
Firstly, I think women need to encourage each other. The word ‘encourage’ means “to give support, confidence or hope [to someone]. I don’t know about you, but I could do with a bit more of that in my life, particularly from other women. There’s just something about being supported by someone who understands what I’m going through, woman to woman. As women, we need to end the competition and rivalry that can so often creep into our relationships. There’s been a lie spread that there aren’t enough jobs, good men or opportunities to go round and so we have to connive and back-stab other women, in order to get ahead. I say it’s a lie, because if we sit down to think about it, we will soon recognise that we all have our own definitions of success and there is more than enough abundance to go around.
My next point is that women need to empower each other. One of the meanings for this word is “to enable [someone] to do something. This is probably the one that resonates most with me, because this is what I do as a coach. My job isn’t to come as an expert, but rather to support my clients and enable them to come up with their own solutions. It is the solution that you come up with for yourself that you are most likely to stick with. The beautiful thing is that being able to empower isn’t limited to just coaches. As mothers we want to do this for our children, to help them develop the skills they need for life. As working women, coaching, mentoring and developing other women is important, to make sure that women excel in the workplace. As friends, we want to do what we can, to empower our girlfriends to be the best that they can be.
Finally, in this sometimes tough and painful world, we need to comfort each other. To comfort someone means to “soothe in grief or console”. Life happens. We lose loved ones, we go through painful divorces, we lose jobs and sometimes we are challenged by disease and sickness. I know from personal experience, that when things have been tough it’s been the women who have stood with me, who have cried with me, who have prayed for me who have got me through. Everyone needs someone, especially in life’s most challenging moments. Someone who sees what we’re going through and comes alongside us to encourage us. As women, we are fortunate to be a little more emotional than men and so we find it easier to connect on a heart level with each other. When you’re going through a rough patch, you don’t necessarily want the rational or logical solutions first. Sometimes, you just want someone to give you a hug and tell you it’s going to be okay.
As I end this week’s blog, I ask some questions of myself as well as you: who do I need to encourage? Who can I empower? Who needs my comfort? Or is it you who needs to be encouraged; empowered or comforted?
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Until next week, go well.